Traditions:
My family has our own collection of Christmas traditions. One, which is apparently older than I suspected since tonight my mother told me about doing this in Parma when she was a child, is driving around on Christmas Eve and making fun of other people's tacky Christmas lights. This was a pretty good year, what with the giant inflatable snowman families (and this is something that must be seen to be believed, so either you know exactly what I'm talking about or you can't possibly understand) and the people in our neighborhood who elected, for reasons known only to them and God, to put red and green neon signs with a cursive "Season's Greetings" in their windows. We're talking, one sign in every window on the front of the house. And, I mean, Season's Greetings? I have never met a Jewish/Muslim/non-religious person who would inflict that particular brand of crap on her neighbors. Somehow, the PC-ness just makes it even worse.
We went to the 8 pm Christmas Vigil, another tradition, though we've been going to Midnight Mass more recently. I remembered why. I really hate the readings at the Vigil. I mean, the Paul is just Paul, but you get St. Paul at all the Christmas Masses, so whatever. But you miss the beautiful Isaiah, "The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light" and the peice you get in return is all right, "For Zion's sake I shall not be silent, for Jerusalem's sake I will not be quiet" (all this is from memory, so any misquoting is my fault), but it is about hope, not about joy. Advent is about hope, the beautiful Veni, Veni Emanuel that Sudeep quoted (and which has been set to a particularly terrible tune and sung at every church all four weeks of Advent for the last 20 years) is about this waiting, this preparing. And that's what the Isaiah verse is about. Preparing the way. But Christmas is not supposed to be about waiting. We're done waiting. We now have until January 6 to be joyful. And I'm annoyed that I missed a day of that. But the worst reading at the Christmas Vigil is the Gospel. It's Matthew 1:18-25, I believe. It's about Joseph finding out Mary was pregnant and not divorcing her because the angel told him not to. First off, we heard Matthew 1:18-24 last fricking week, people. I can remember for that long. Also, though, I hate this reading because when I was maybe 12 or so, we had this priest at the church I went to. He was an old Irishman, pretty clearly an alcoholic, red-haired and red-faced and named Father Hogan. For about 3 years, my mother and I went to this Mass and got Father Hogan and he gave the same sermon, about how Joseph didn't divorce Mary because divorce was evil and no one should get divorced. On Christmas Eve! Leaving aside that he missed the whole point of the reading (Joseph didn't divorce Mary because his faith was strong, not because divorce was a terrible thing, for those of you keeping score) but talk about a great sermon to give the people who come to church once a year. This year, the sermon was given by another Irishman, Msgr. Fennessy, and when I heard his accent I braced for the worst. Luckily, Msgr. is not a good public speaker by any stretch of the imagination, but he seems to be a kind man who is reasonably aware of the problems facing the Church. He talked about faith.
Today, after dinner, we went to a movie, another Christmas tradition. We saw Spanglish. It was OK. The acting was very good, even Adam Sandler managed to make you forget that he was Adam Sandler. I wanted to cry for Berniece (overweight daughter), through most of the movie. There was a scene near the end when she's in a pool in a giant T-shirt and shorts and I thought about how true to life that was. My mother is infinitely better than Tea Leoni, of course, and I was never as self-conscious as Berniece, but I could definitely empathise. It's really hard to be an overweight child. And this has been said many times, but Flor was absolutely breathtakingly gorgeous. That said, I didn't love the movie. The application essay conceit was not particularly well-done and was completely unnecessary. The ending became obvious fairly quickly and then took too long to get there. And I had no idea why John and Deb got married; there was no tenderness or residual love in their relationship. I didn't hate Deb as much as other people (I think she was completely lacking in self-awareness, but she didn't set out to be mean, not that that totally excuses her or anything), but why John, this seemingly perfect guy put up with her was beyond me. It was worth seeing, though. Honestly, it's probably worth a matinee admission just to stare at Flor for 2 hours. There are some funny bits, too. "Culpa. guilt. si, we're Catholic. we know guilt" (Cristina to John, after he asks whether they know what guilt is). "No, I'm not drunk. I gave up drinking three weeks ago. Yes, nobody noticed. That gave me hope that I was a good drunk" (paraphrased from Deb's alcoholic (but awesome) mother).
Our other big tradition is the tree, but that merits its own entry. Look either tomorrow night or Monday.
I'm back to DC tomorrow afternoon, but I'm hoping to get a chance to see T-- and N-- before I leave.